【国旗下讲话】沟通能力：服从而非任性2（2020年9月21日 第四周）
国旗下讲话
2020.09.21
A habit that’s on the heart and mind of so many of us is obedience. This is not a habit that develops overnight. With many years of hard work and consistency, we can help our children develop this crucial habit.
我们很多人心中都有一个习惯，那就是服从。它并不是一朝一夕就能养成的，相反，我们需要通过多年的努力和坚持，才能帮助我们的孩子养成这个至关重要的习惯。
It is an old story that the failures in life are not the people who lack good intentions; they are those whose physical nature has not acquired the habit of prompt and involuntary obedience. The man who can make himself do what he wills has the world before him, and it rests with parents to give their children this self-compelling power as a mere matter of habit.”
古语有言，生活中的失败者并非那些缺乏良好意愿的人，而是那些不能迅速且自觉地服从的人。一个能够随心所欲的人，整个世界都将摆在他眼前，因此父母们也应该帮助孩子们形成这种习惯，获得自我控制的能力。
School Education
Developing the Habit
在学校教育中，我们可以通过以下几个方面来帮助孩子们养成这个习惯
Consistency 一致
It is hard to fathom how we are supposed to consistently expect obedience every single time. Maybe we have multiple children- being sure that they obey our authority without exception is a daunting task. We must remain consistent, but we can make this easier on ourselves by giving fewer commands.
对于我们来说，如何始终如一地期待孩子们的服从是一件难以捉摸的事。也许我们有许多学生——确保他们无一例外地服从我们的权威是一项非常艰巨的任务。我们大家必须保持一致，或许，我们也可以通过少下命令来让自己轻松一点。
Inspire Them 启发
An important part in the habit training process is to inspire our children. We can share an idea, like “what a noble thing it is,” a hymn, or a Bible verse. Living books like The Tale of Peter Rabbit touch upon the importance of obedience.
在习惯培养的过程中，启发孩子是很重要的一部分。我们可以分享一个想法，比如 “一件高尚的事”，也可以分享一首赞美诗，或是一首圣经诗。像《彼得兔的故事》这样一本图书就提及了服从的重要性。
Practice 实践
This is an area that I think is often overlooked (meaning, I often overlook it!) Practice is a gentle consequence.
我认为这是一个经常被忽略的地方（比如我就经常忽略它），实践有着潜移默化的效果。
Consequences 后果
We don’t have to punish our children when they disobey, but they should have natural or relative consequences. Natural consequences occur without any intervention, where as relative consequences are applied.
我们无需去惩罚一个不听话的孩子，而应该让他们承担这件事所带来的自然而然的后果。这种后果是不需要人为干预就能自然发生的，与此相关的后果也是同理。
Final Thoughts
结语
One of the biggest things that changed my view of habit formation is this idea: Children aren’t trying to be naughty, bad, or difficult, but they lack the self-discipline and maturity to always do as they ought. Our job is to help them grow towards maturity and obedience. When we communicate with them, we need to show love and patience.
改变我对习惯养成看法的，是这样一个观点：孩子们并没有试图变得顽皮，也没有试图变坏或变得难以相处。他们只是缺乏自律和成熟，无法总是按照他们应该做的去做。我们的工作是帮助他们走向成熟和顺从，在与他们交流时，我们需要展现的，是我们的爱与耐心。
