【国旗下讲话】在学习中进步,在思考中前行

我们在学校里面难免会遇到各种困难:学习上的困难,不好相处的人,难以克服的艰苦环境等等。我们通常的应对方式是什么呢?我们会觉得,换一个老师,换一些朋友,换一个环境就好了。我们总觉得幸福就在下一站,只存在于未来,而现在总是痛苦而没有意义。
We will always meet all kinds of difficulties at school, whether it is about study, or relationships. How do we usually dead with it?Will things turn out to be better if we just we until our environment changes?We often think that happiness only exists in the future, and the present suffering is meaningless. 

那我们此时此刻做的这一件件小事,真的只是为了打发时间,等待未来用的吗?未来难道不是我们今天的这一件件小事铺垫出来的吗?今天我们找了三位12年级的学生分享他们的经历。
But the little things we do and experience everyday lay down the path to our future. I interview three students to find out what think of some of their past experiences.  

高中生活的三年里,我学到的最重要的一件事情就是,无论别人如何评价对待你,有自己的判断力最重要。
One of the most important things I have learned is to have your own judgement, no matter what others think of you.

在我刚来的时候,我只有一个好朋友,其他人不太熟。但是有一个男生带头对我进行孤立,传播我的谣言,让我在好朋友面前难堪,让他们远离了我。这让我感到非常难受和伤心。我在当时很怕单独做任何事,怕别人可怜我,我否认了自己很长一段时间,不想社交,不吃饭,沉默寡言
When I first came here, I had only one good friend, and few acquaintances. Then one of the boys instigated my friends to turn against me by spreading rumors about me. I felt depressed for a long time, and was afraid to do anything by myself. I lost desire to socialize and to eat. 

我告诉妈妈我想要去转学,但是妈拒绝了,她说:“一个人不喜欢一个新环境,不是应该想着去逃避,而是应该尝试去改变,如果不能改变,就尝试去适应。因为适应不了就走,到了一个新环境了以后,总是选择逃避,那么一生都会处于逃避中。”
I told my mom I wanted to transfer to a new school, but she said, “If you don’t like your environment, you should not run away but try to change it. If you can’t change it, adapt to it. If you leave this time, you will always choose running away.”

后来,渐渐的我与原来的好朋友修复了关系,我不再认为一个人行动是一个异类,反而更加享受只有自己的时间,我不再因为别人的诋毁和诽谤而伤心难过,尽管现在也有一些的同学在背后诋毁诽谤我,但是我并不在意,我们不能要求每个人都喜欢我们,但是我们可以做到不去理会那些不喜欢你的人,更珍惜那些值得爱、值得珍惜的友谊。
Later, my relationship with my friends restored. And I now very much value my along time. I’m no longer upset by others’ slander against me. We cannot be liked by everyone, but can invest in those who truly appreciate us.

去年返校,我带了两部手机,第一次交手机的时候却只交了一部。那段时间我们作业和课件都是电子版。但是我没有电脑,就藏了一个手机专门完成作业。因为当时我对老师有一个很死板的印象就是,在老师眼里,周间使用手机是可能性为零的事情。但是藏手机的那一周我的内心非常煎熬,以致于看到所有老师都很心虚。
At the beginning of the semester lats year, I brought two phones to school, but only turned in one, because I did not have my own computer to do my homework. I had the impression that it is impossible for teachers to allow students to use their phones during the week. But it was a very difficult week for me, as guilt filled my heart every time I talk to my teachers.

返校第六天,我终于忍受不住这样的煎熬,主动向一位老师“自首”。这位老师借此和我进行了一次很深刻的交流,他没有责备我,反而积极的帮助我想办法借电脑,列出了不止一个可行方法。
After six days of suffering, I could no longer bear it and talked to one of my teachers. To my surprise, he did not blame me at all, but instead tried to help me to find a computer. 

这次谈话之后,我和老师的关系更近了一步,我学习到“真诚”的重要性,可以真诚的和老师交流。我觉得学生和老师之间是可以建立信任关系的,老师没有在学生的对立面,反而他们在帮助学生们更好的在学校里学习和生活。
After this incident, I realized the importance of sincere communication. I believe that students and teachers can trust each other, and teachers are here to help students.

在嘉洋,印象最深的一件事,是和同学因为合作而导致的争吵。起因是我和几位同学决定创办一个社团,但是我们对社团的看法很不一样,产生了许多的摩擦,关系很快陷入了僵局,难以再继续合作。
I learned one of my most important lessons at Joy from a bitter argument with my classmates.My friends and I were thinking about starting a student-led club, but we had drastically different opinions about the operation of our club, and our relationship soured to such an extent that we could no longer work together.

就在第一次大活动之前,我们之间爆发了一次很大的冲突,有同学希望能换一个负责人取代我。这件事对于我而言可谓晴天霹雳,我觉得自己所付出的所有时间与心血都付之东流了。
Then, right before our first big event, we had one of our biggest fights, because some students wanted to replace me as the leader of the club. I was dumbfounded, and I felt that all the time and energy I had invested was in vain.

随后,我与当事同学进行了一次深入的沟通,才意识到,我们都缺乏了合作中最需要的品质——谦卑。在合作过程中,我们常常坚持自己的意见,不愿意去理解,去妥协。我一直自认是一个愿意聆听他人意见的带领者,但是那时候我意识到,原来他觉得我是一个难以沟通的独裁者。
Then, after a long conversation with my opponent, I realized that we both lack an important quality – humility. We often stick to our opinions and don’t like compromising. I had always thought I was a good listener, but he thought I was like a dictator.

原来,领导者并非意味着掌握权力,而应当是团队中最谦卑的那一个,因为只有这样,他才能听到别人的意见和想法。在这件事情后,我们学会先放下自己,聆听别人,这才是我们团队得以坚持的关键。
I now know that to lead does not mean to have the most power, but to be the humblest one in the team, because that’s the only way to truly understand each other. Afterwards, we became much better listeners, which was the key to our success. 

这些同学在成长过程中,有的收获了成绩,有的收获了信任和责任感,有的收获了领导力。不管是哪个过程,在一开始看起来都困难重重,似乎无法克服,但是经历过了就会发现,曾经的鸿沟不过是一个小坑,咬牙一跨也就过去了。相信大家经历过高中的洗礼之后也会收获优秀的品格!
Through ups and downs, these students have gained trust, a sense of responsibility and leadership along the way. I believe that you guys will gain value characters as well, after overcoming what may seem insurmountable at first.

演讲人:关胜美 徐力
指导老师:冯诚轩